There are misconceptions everywhere, maybe they come from your very lips as well and later you realize your misstep. But we all do it and we can only learn from each action and do better by the next.
We all go through phases and times of struggle, where we feel less than our best selves, when each day we hope, pray even that it'll be better than one before. But, there's a problem with that hope: Are you doing anything to change how you feel? Are you making your day go any different than the last? It's important to note that change happens when: 1.) We want to change for ourselves, not anyone else. 2.) We focus on ourselves, what we want, what we enjoy doing, what overall makes us happy. 3.) We live the life we want to live. Not the life anyone says you should be living or how, but your life for you. Yes, it sounds selfish, and at first it may seem that way. Saying no to people for the time spent you could get ahead on things you need to do, chores, even taking time for reflection, may actually improve your relationships with those around you, yourself and bring needed clarity. It's a process. There's no sugar coating the patience you'll need...
At one point or another it'll hit you--the loss. Like a tidal wave, an avalanche, a tsunami, and you're back where you were four maybe ten years ago, yet you don't understand why. You wonder if you've found a trigger that has dug up those painful feelings of experience, or if you never truly worked through the grief you should have. But either of these--are they the truth or excuses? Is it all in your head, a hinder to your present motivation and success? Or is it simply the answer that you're still grieving. For time does heal though for some it takes much longer to hurt less. To feel not as much, not as potent as when it occurred. To be able to breath without the emotional twist of a knife painfully in your chest. So give yourself time to recover, as it won't happen over night, nor have you healed your heart completely through these years and I'm here, alive and breathing to tell you THAT IS ABSOLUTELY OKAY.
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